must haves

now that i’m in the baby groove (for the most part), there are some baby things from my registry i am using, and others i’m not. here’s a list of the items i suggest

wipe warmer – i read mixed reviews about this and decided not to add one to my registry. i did receive one as a hand me down, and i’m glad i did! those middle of the night diaper changes are rough enough, but adding a cold wet wipe to the mix does not make things better. remember that baby’s skin is more sensitive than ours. i dare you to wipe your tummy at 3am with the cold wipe to see how you like it.

breast milk collector – while breast feeding, the boob that the baby is NOT nursing from, will most likely leak. don’t ask me why, it just does. you will want to save that precious liquid gold for another feeding. these collectors allow you to do just that.

breast pads – speaking of leaking boobs, you don’t want this to happen while you’re in public. these breast pads are a life saver.

play mat – you will hear a million times how important tummy time is. your baby will need some place to do it. they will also need something other than the ceiling fan to look at when you need a break and want to put them down.

electronic crib mobile – entertaining your newborn can be tricky. mine loves the ceiling fan, and anything that moves. i found myself winding up our mobile 10 times a day because it only lasted 2 minutes. finally we bought a portable electric version that lasts 30 mins. it goes from room to room with us, allowing me time to go to the bathroom and not feel rushed because the song is going to end soon

rocker – there’s only so much your newborn can do, and laying on their back seems to occupy most of their time. these rockers are a great place for your baby to hang out, up right. the chair can fit a toddler, so it will be in your home for a while and you will definitely get your moneys worth. when your baby falls asleep, there is a stand at the bottom that you fold out so that the chair no longer rocks.

little remedies – in the first 3 months we’ve already dealt with really bad gas, tons of spit ups and stuffy noses. the little remedies products have been a life saver. for dealing with gas, our trick was to give the drops before each feeding. we found that the drops don’t work quick enough if we wait until after the baby is suffering from gas.

clip on night light – middle of the night feedings are grueling. forget about turning on a lamp – it hurts your eyes, and it wakes your hubby up. clip on this light to your bra strap, and you will have just enough soft light to see what you’re doing. it’s not a flash light, so there is still a chance you will stub your toe when getting out of bed. there is also a vibrating timer that will wake you up if you fall asleep. you will most likely fall asleep during a feeding at least once.

EDIT (5/15/16) : i can’t believe i forgot these items! now THESE are a must have

pee pads – when your baby starts having blowouts, you will be glad you had these disposable pads underneath them. we bought the ones for pets because they were cheaper. they are pretty large, so we cut them in half and now have twice as many.

bidet – after delivery you will be sore down there. you will be scared to wipe, especially after number 2’s. freshen up with water instead of rough dry paper. it will make healing a little more tolerable

 

 

 

100

we celebrated Milo’s 100th Day this past weekend. It’s a Chinese tradition that includes a 9 course family style dinner and passing out red eggs (hard boiled and died red). we also incorporated the American tradition of expensive dessert tables.  every party we go to nowadays has a fancy buffet of sweets, along with goodies to take home.

we got our awesome cake from Delicious Arts. we went to the bakery with a vague idea of what we wanted. they asked us what type of stuff Milo liked. well, he likes his thumb and staring at himself in a mirror. not sure if those would make a good cake… you can see we went a kid and adult favorite: the peanuts

Milo slept through most of it, which i was actually relieved for. there was enough going on through out the party, without having to worry about why he is crying. even though the party was for him, it was more of an adult event. i don’t think he would’ve liked the duck or shrimp.

milo 100

1+1=2

Milo is almost 2 months old, and he’s had a few milestones. The most exciting, is that he had another ekg & echo, and his heart looks great! the coarcatation is still there, but he is functioning fine with it, and it doesn’t look like we will need to take any action. we’ll go back when he’s 9 months old for a checkup.

most recently, Milo has started to smile! and sometimes it sounds like he’s laughing. i have to say, with a little bias, that he has the cutest smile i’ve ever seen. it takes a lot of ruckus to get him to do it, but it’s worth it.

this past weekend, Milo attended his first birthday party. his cousin Olivia turned 1 and we went to a park in Monterey park for a circus themed event. he’s been staying up longer during the day, and was awake through the entire party. he almost made it through the end of cake before he started to have a little melt down. once we got him in the car and started driving, he passed out.
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speaking of him staying up during the day: he’s sleeping more at night! he will sleep a good 4 to 5 hours for his first stretch. we’ll feed and change his diaper before he goes back to sleep for another 2-3 hours. this has made a world a difference on my energy. i can get through the day with just 1 nap 🙂

 

stuff no one tells you #4

Milo is 5 weeks now, and every day i learn something new. i know there have been a ton of ‘oh crap’ moments, but i have mommy brain and can’t remember anything. literally, i am forgetting peoples names and losing my words.

 

  1. when you leave the hospital you will still look pregnant. not fat, but pregnant
  2. your bladder can get very weak afterwards (mine did), so it’s a good thing you are already wearing diapers
  3. you will not get any sleep at the hospital
  4. breast feeding WILL hurt a lot in the beginning
  5. your pregnancy symptoms will not immediately go away
  6. be careful how you pick up your baby since you will be doing it A LOT. mommy thumb is a real thing, and it hurts!
  7. your nipples get darker so your baby can find them easier
  8. breast feeding dehydrates you, and the horrid constipation can occur

labor days cont…

After 2 days of intermittent contractions, i was finally checked into the hospital and excited to meet my baby. first thing on the checklist, get an epidural! i chose the walking epidural over the standard version. it’s a modified recipe that doesn’t fully numb your legs so that you can still walk. the good news was that the epidural completely took away the pain from my contractions. i was able to sleep comfortably. the bad news was that every time i sat up to walk, i got extremely nauseous. the narcotics in the epidural was not agreeing with me. pain killers were never my friend, so it’s no surprise this wasn’t working for me. when the epidural wore off, i received a “watered down” version of the standard epidural and the nausea went away.

when i checked in, i was 4cm dilated. a few hours later, i was almost 6cms. things were moving slowly, but they were progressing. i took a nap, and when i woke up, i was still 6 cms and my contractions had slowed down. i was at a stand still so they decided to break my water. it’s a weird feeling to have people take care of what’s going on “downstairs”. you lose all privacy during labor, and have to allow multiple people access to your vagina. i don’t know if i ever got comfortable with it.

after they broke my water, i was still at 6 cms. hello baby, are you coming today?! the doc decided to give me pitocin. they started me on a low dose, with no results. they dialed up the dosage an hour later and things were finally moving… quickly! out of no where i started feeling pressure in my pelvis and i was 10cms. i had checked into the hospital around 2:30 am, and it was almost 10:30 pm when i started pushing. finally!

i pushed for a little over an hour before Milo was born. with each contraction and push, i had no idea if i was doing it right. there are no classes on how to actually push, and since you are numb from the epidural, you don’t actually feel your muscles pushing. the doc asked if i wanted a mirror to see what was going on down there, but i definitely did not want that. in the delivery room there was around a dozen people in there waiting for Milo, so that they can check his heart. he spent 24hrs in the NICU, and was sent down to our room for us to take care of him. this tiny human being was now in our care, and we had no idea what we were doing.

it was a long process, but i would do it all over again. it’s funny how you can go 33 years without someone in your life, but the second they arrive, you never want to experience another day without them. i love you Milo (even when you keep me up all night because you’re gassy and spitting up)